you are not alone, however you also need to think about what led to you being disappointed.
It’s all too easy to just blame the other person. If you are reading this blog then you are probably a manager, so deep in your heart of hearts you have felt even a moment of blame toward the employee who let you down.
Pretty much every one of us has felt disappointed in a personal relationship. But this is a business blog not an “Agony Aunt” bog.
No one likes to be let down or disappointed
I’m sure that most people do not want to let others down (yes there is room in my world view for people who do not know or care about whether or not they let other people down)
The other thing that I am sure of is that if you have been disappointed (as I have been) then you have the ability to change that feeling (as I do for myself)
Dr Stephen Covey referred to humans having “response-ability” meaning that we have the ability to choose our response to situations.
Feeling disappointed is a feeling and we as adults have the ability to choose our response.
Perhaps not always in the immediate moment (that is called a reflex response) but we do have a choice about how we assess and respond to that moment over a period of time.
Lets take an example – like me I’m sure you have been stopped by a stranger in the street asking for directions. When I help someone in that situation, if I expect payment or money then it will be easy for me to be disappointed?
Having been raised by parents with old fashioned values, I do expect a “thank you” Can you see the problem with that?
How different would it be if my view was that a “thank you” would be nice rather than expected.